Looking for something to read this Mother’s Day weekend? These four longreads reflect on various aspects of motherhood, from a personal essay on the challenges of breastfeeding to a writer’s exploration of her mother’s life as an immigrant.
“A Certain Kind of Mammal,” Meaghan OβConnell, Longreads
In an excerpt from her book, And Now We Have Everything, Meaghan OβConnell writes about the joy, the triumph, and the prison of breastfeeding:
As soon as the baby latched on, I burst into tears β of relief, of rage. Iβd had this idea of what breastfeeding would be like. Not the physical experience, but the lived reality, the timing, the way it was supposed to fit between other things. I thought it would be something happening in the background while I went about my actual life. How else would it be tolerable? The faint sucking sound of a breast pump during a conference call, a shirt lifted up on the subway, so seamlessly nobody really notices it. Baby legs kicking in the aisle of an airplane, his head and my tits hidden under a gauzy blanket. I wanted to be one of those women who, without missing a beat, pull out a boob at a restaurant, mid-conversation. Thatβs how they sell it to you: Itβs so convenient! Always with you. Natural. Completely free!
“My Mother Is Not This Blanket,” Daisy Alpert Florin, Full Grown People
At Full Grown People, Daisy Alpert Florin reflects on an unfinished blanket that her mother was making when she died — and that she doesn’t know how to complete:
But the blanket will never be finished because I will never finish it. Maybe my mother never taught me because she thought weβd have more time. Or maybe — and this seems more likely — she didnβt teach me because she thought it was something Iβd never need to know. Maybe thatβs what immigrants do — what mothers do — imagine worlds for their children that are bigger, vaster, and more electric than their own.
“SuperBabies Don’t Cry,” Heather Kirn Lanier, Vela
In “SuperBabies Don’t Cry,” Heather Kirn Lanier admits to striving for a “perfect” pregnancy and birth when she was carrying her daughter Fiona, and explores a thread of ableism in her life and our society:
But after a shift change, when a new nurse entered my room (someone who hadnβt just seen me squeeze a person from my vagina without medication), she asked a question that felt like a slap: βDid you take drugs while pregnant?β
No, nurse, I wanted to say. I took superfoods. I took reiki. I took electronica chords and affirmations.
This is the moment when I realized perhaps I hadnβt made a SuperBaby after all. And this, looking back five years later, was a good failure, the very best of my many failures to date.
“Between Mom and Stepmom,” Sarah Menkedick, Longreads
At Longreads, Sarah Menkedick describes the different but complementary ways in which her mother and her stepmother have nurtured her:
The familiar narrative is that Meg and Mom must be inherently at odds with one another, that the task of motherhood is a solitary one performed by one woman in one household. Mom would thus be forever faulted and guilty for having left, for not being the one shaping my everyday; Meg had stepped into Momβs presumed role, though she couldnβt fill it completely because sheβd always be tagged with the stigma of βstep.β They were culturally defined, as mothers often are, more by their lack than by their substance.
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A Certain kind of mammal sounds like so much fun miss Cheri!
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Amazing. Even though I am male. I usually find the motherhood topic to be very interesting
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I am going to archive this so I can read it when I am going to start a family.
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Very good collection. Please consider Baby Love by Rebecca Walker as well.
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Before I went back to work I had a haircut. It had been almost five years of home care and nurturing and I remember how marvellous it felt to have someone care for me for a change, someone offering me a cup of coffee, even. Can you imagine it? I bet you can.
Despite all the available literature on parenting, you’re not as prepared for it as you think you will be. I may not have enjoyed the leaky breasts or the way they hardened when it was feeding time, but l just loved the way breast feeding let me bond with my babies. We all have our different priorities I know,. In my case, I planned for and was prepared to put some things on hold for a bit. I found it rewarding.
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Motherhood. The post just reminds me that one can never get enough of it:)
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This is really nice. π
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This is pretty interesting!
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touched my heart… very nice!
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As a first time mom, this is definitely read worthy.
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Mom world itself is a pleasure π
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Awesome π and yes that’s the best gift for a child — to be blessed with such a best mother.
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My mom is definitely going to love thisπ
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Motherhood is the best feeling in the world.
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I just came across a mom blogger who wrote about her experience as a first time mom. She said she prepared by buying all kinds of parenting books. Eventually, she said, it distracted her from reading her own maternal instincts and so the books now make for really good paperweights or level out those wobbly coffee tables. Motherhood is so foreign to me from a personal standpoint. I guess, however, I am tied to it, being a child of a mother, and mother who breastfed me and nurtured me and always makes me feel loved. That, in some way, gives you a feel of what motherhood could really be like. We’ll see, eventually, maybe.
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i love this!
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Motherhood is a feeling that never fades away.
Once a mother, always a mother. π
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Motherhood teaches us the path to grow up as a more humane person.
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Happy motherβs day to all of the moms. You are strong women and we love you all. Mothers shape our lives and we thank you for everything ππππ
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Love π
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Very interesting reads!
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Great list of resources!
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Great work!π
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