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Who is your favorite parent?

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Who is your favorite parent? And why?

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  1. What a tough question. It’s not just that you immediately think of your own parents (alive or dead); but you also start thinking about how you parent. What if my kids prefer my partner? AGGGGGH. Here’s hoping we get equal plaudits. More thoughts on thrifty, creative and eco-friendly childcare at http://homemadekids.wordpress.com

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  2. I can’t really decide. I have a natural tendency to go to my mother, however my father who has had a brain trauma does not remember me being born or growing up- so I cannot really say that he is not my favourite when he is a different dad to whom i grew up with…. its hard to say. Both are lovely but if given an ultimatum I guess it would be my Mother for sheer fact that she knows me better.

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  3. I appreciate both my parents much more now that they’ve both passed on, but my father was my favorite. We were more alike. Mom had issues that made life very difficult. As Dad said after she passed away, “Your mother was always a mystery to me.” It wasn’t a compliment, she confused him by (a) shoplifting, (b) lying, (c), extreme unfounded jealousy, (d) her trouble-making ways. But doctors discovered a year before she died that she’d had a first stroke at age 24 which, according to Dad, changed her behavior dramatically, although no one knew why then. My father was a very kind person. Never gave me a hard time when I got bad grades in school. He got terrible grades. We both just didn’t care for school. He made me feel safe. When I was 15, a boss used a curse word at me. When I told the story at dinner, Dad left his meal half eaten, tore down to the store and told that boss if he ever used that kind of language to his daughter again, he’d knock him out. My dad was so handsome, women flirted with him his entire life. He never understood it. Didn’t know how good looking he was. Even at 85, women found him handsome. He thought they were nuts. And he loved my mother, he said, “She was my girl.” Got to love a man like that.

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  4. Now, I could no more answer this question … than I hope my parents could if asked who their favorite child was. Both my Mom and my Dad sacrificed so that their children could have a better life. They gave us their love, their time – which was a very precious gift, and their support. I agree with a poster above, Nicola Baird, who said it makes her question whether her kids would prefer her partner. Exactly!

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  5. I can truly say that my Dad was my favorite, all while I was growing up. After I got married and grew up and had children of my own, then I could see my mother through different eyes. They both have been gone for a long time but at this point I guess I can say that: Once I grew up I gained a lot of respect for my Mom and then thy both shared equal in my affections.

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  6. I liked my Dad the best. We used to walk in the woods, go hunting, work in the garage, he let me paint things when he was painting and we shared the love of reading.

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  7. I’m with Desha on this one. That said, the parent who truly always had my heart, is my beloved Dad. With the alzheimer’s hitting him in 99, and then his death in 2007, I’m just – lost. I don’t have my bff, my financial advisor, the guy who was always there for me no matter what I got myself involved in, the guy who was a dad to my friends especially those who didn’t have dads that knew what a good dad should be about especially w/ unconditional love & a sense of humor w/ a twinkle in his blue eyes. He was my spiritual director, my prayer intercessor. He was a prince amongst men, a friend to many, very accepting even of people he had never encountered before (and believe me, I brought them into his life, lol!). He taught me by example w/ everything from recycling to how to be a year-round ‘secret Santa’, & Gaad, I am so lost!!!

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  8. well as i was raised by my grandmothers they are my favorite my aunt granny teaches me a lot about business even when i was in grade school, my granny mommy teaches me love and compassion.

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  9. I have no real favorite parent, however, I am closer to my mother because of my parents splitting-up before my birth. I reconnect with my birth father a couple years ago. My relationship with birth father is distant. I have step-father who has a father-figure to some degree.

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  10. My father was full of unconditional love and we loved each other big time. My mom, HI MOM, had an abusive father and was a terrible mother but a great human.

    Had it not been for my dad, I might have ended up in a mental hospital. He was Always THERE FOR ME. A truly unusual dad. Miss him like crazy. Both died young.

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  11. My Dad.. Talking to him always makes my problems seem lighter. Its as if his words lift all my worries away. But I realized its because whenever he tells me its ok, its as if Im accepted by the person i look up to.. so it feels fine.. :))

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  12. Here’s my shortlist of great parents, not in any particular order:
    1. Atticus Finch
    2. Jor-El
    3. Kate Gulden
    4. Guido Orefice
    5. Albus Dumbledore
    6. Hilary Rodham Clinton
    7. Jackie Kennedy Onassis
    8. Gandalf
    9. Mother Goose
    10. Elly and John Patterson

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  13. Both my parents were amazing in their own ways. My mother for her free-spirt and generosity at times, my father for his quiet and teaching ways. Both did the best they could with the knowledge of the times. My mom was more selfish than my dad. I have lost my mom and I can’t bear the thought of loosing my dad.

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