1. Looks. How many times have you previewed someone's online picture only to meet them and they look nothing like their photo? It is a common occurrence. And, this is even worse considering the amount of people who place “glamour shots” on their online profiles. Those are not a realistic representation of someone.

2. Instant chemistry. When you meet someone at a speed dating event, your “date”, you can assess immediately whether you want to meet the person again or not. Studies show that it takes only 30 seconds to realize attraction.

3. Face-to-face contact. There is no sitting in front of a computer while communicating with someone. You get the experience of making eye contact, hearing their voice, and touching them. It's real. Even with web cameras, the full impact of this is not experienced.

4. Voice. Some people place an importance upon one's voice. In speed dating, you get a chance to actually hear what someone sounds like.

5. Safety. Our speed dating events are held in reputable, quality establishments. There is no chance of meeting someone in unsafe situations. Single women can feel safe and protected in attending our events alone.

6. Grooming habits. With speed dating, you can assess what type of hygiene your “date” has. You cannot do this with online dating.

7. Interaction. With speed dating, you can assess how your “date” answers questions. You can notice their speed and confidence. This cannot be done with online dating.

So, if you have been hesitant about getting involved in speed dating – think again. Give it a chance. You never know who you will meet!

According to some sources, speed dating started in the Beverly Hills, California area in 1998. It has a reputation of being the form of dating for glamorous people, since there is an air of elegance and sophistication related to it. To add to its excitement, it has been featured in a variety of television shows and movies. On television, the popular show “Sex and The City” featured speed dating in a few episodes. As far as films goes, speed dating was featured in the “40 Year Old Virgin” movie.

“Dates” normally last anywhere from 3-10 minutes, with the 3-4 minute range being the most common. Our events will consist of 3 minute dates. This is enough time to assess your compatibility level. It also is enough time to ask 1-2 questions.

So, if you are tired of other methods of meeting quality singles, give speed dating a shot. You never know who you will meet!

หยุดเขียนประวัติ Profile ทำร้ายตัวเอง บางอาจจะไม่คาดคิดว่าคนอ่าน profile เขาคิดยังไง

ถึงรูปของคุณจะสวยก็ตาม Profile เป็นส่วนสำคัญหลักในการหาคู่ หรือหาเพื่อน คนรู้ใจ

Stop Writing Your Dating Profile The Hard Way!

คุณสามารถเขียนประวัติการออกเดทได้ดีกว่าที่ผ่านมาในเวลาแค่ 3 สามนาทีครึ่ง

 แต่ถ้าคุณไม่เขียนเลยและยิ่งไม่มีรูปด้วย ยิ่งเหมือนคุยกับคนที่ไม่มีตัวตน หรือว่าอยากจะเขียนให้ดูดีแต่ไม่มี Idea ที่จะเริ่มเขียนยังไง เขียนอธิบายตัวเองยังไงให้คนสนใจ

คุณสามารถยืมประโยคหรือใช้ที่เราเขียนที่ blog นี้ไปใช้ได้ ไม่ห่วงค่ะ แค่ขอแลกกับคอมเม้นท์หน่อยนะ ขอแลกตัวหนังสือกับตัวหนังสือและกันค่ะ  คุณสามารถเขียนให้ดูดี และสนใจดึงดูดตัวคุณถึงไม่มีรูปก็ตาม

ถ้าคุณใหม่ในวงการเวบหาคู่  และพยายามที่จะหาคู่ เพื่อนหญิง หรือเพื่อนชายอย่างรักแท้ในโลกนี้? สิ่งแรกที่ต้องทำคือการสมัครสมาชิก และการเขียน profile ที่ดูดี และเป็สิ่งแรกที่เปิดใจคนสมาชิก click เข้ามาอ่าน profile

ของคุณ  ไม่บางท่านก็ไม่สนใจที่จะเปลี่ยนแปลงประวติตัวเอง และหลายท่านก็เขียนได้น่าเกลียด บ่งบอกนิสัยส่วนตัวได้เลย  หรือได้เขียนอะไรที่คิดได้ในตอนนั้น  คุณสามารถ say goodbye เพื่อนชาย หรือเพื่อนสาวที่

กำลังออนไลน์ได้เลย เพราะพวกเขาเหล่านั้นก็เหมือนคุณที่เข้ามาหาความรักที่จริงใจ  ไม่ใช่ลอยลอยเหมือนกับ

Profile ของคุณ  และเหมือนกับว่าประวัติของคุณ have a bugs .. ตัวอย่างที่ไม่ควรเขียนในประวัติ profile

I am a Funny person, witty  person..

ไม่ควรจะเขียนเยินยอตัวเอง  สิ่งนี้ต้องเป็นสิ่งที่สมาชิกที่สนใจคิดและชื่นชมในตัวคุณ ที่เขาชื่นชมคุณอยู่ในใจ

I was just bored ,so wrote my profile here.. เป็นมุมที่  negative สำหรับตัวคุณเอง ควรเปลี่ยนเป็น

I am new Here.

I  like dark haired men, but if you are blond and good looking,

Writing me anyway, maybe you can change my mind.

ทางที่ดีให้ เอาผู้ชายผมบลอนร์ออกไป คิดให้ดีถ้าคุณชอบผูชายผมดำ ก็น่าจะเป็นผมดำอย่างเดียว ไม่ควรเอาทั่งสองคนมาเป็นตัวเลือก เหมือนกับว่าคุณเป็นคนสองจิตสองใจ คือพูดอีกอย่างคือเจ่าชู้  หรือไม่ต้องเขียนเลยก็ดี หรือคนอื่นต้องง้อคุณ

I am not intereted in guys who are better boring.

ฉันไม่ต้องการผู้ชายที่น่าเบื่อ และขี้บ่น

และไม่มีที่ไม่ใครที่ไม่น่าเบื่อ และขี้บ่นเพราะขนาดคุณบางครั้งก็บ่นคนอื่น

เหมือนกัน ทางที่ดีพูดเกี่ยวกับสิ่งที่คุณชอบ ดีว่าในสิ่งที่คุณไม่ชอบ และเหมือนกับว่าคุณมองโลกในแง่ดี

I want a guy who can make me laugh…

เป็นสิ่งที่ไม่ควรเขียน เหมือนกับว่าคุณเป็นคนที่กดดันไม่มีความสุข และคุณแค่ต้องการใครสักคนมาเพื่อนทำให้คุณหัวเราะเท่านั้น และพวกเขาก็ไม่เหมือนกับตลกใน TV. ที่ทำในคุณหัวเราะ และคุณก็ไม่ได้เข้ามาคู่เพื่อหาตัวตลก คุณเข้ามาหาคนรักค่ะ ใช่ไหมค่ะ

I Like taking walks by the  ocean, or watching TV, or going camping with  my friends,

นั้นเป็นสิ่งที่ไม่จำเป็นรายละเอียดที่จะเขียนลงไป และนี่เป็นสิ่งที่ยากที่จะหาคนรัก เหมือนกับที่คุณต้องการ และไม่ต้องการออกไปกับคนอื่นนอกจากเพื่อนของคุณ

อาจจะทำให้เขาคิดว่าคุณอาจจะไม่เข้ากับเพื่อนของเขาก็ได้และเป็นการเจาะจงการหาคนรัก แค่เพราะว่าเขาไม่ชอบเดินที่ชายหาดด้วย และไม่ชอบนั่งดู TV กับคุณ ทำให้สมาชิกสนใจคุณน้อยลง อาจจะเหลือแค่ 10 % ก็เป็นได้ ทางที่ดีให้ดูดีและเป็นสิ่งที่น่าสนใจและมีข้ออื่นพิเศษกว่าคนอื่น สำหรับตัวคุณคือ my hobbies is Camping or watching basketball...

I want a guy who can make me laugh… I am sexy flirtatious.. I like kissed on my back, full body massaged from my boyfriend/girlfriend..

และถ้าพูดเรื่อง sex อย่างเปิดเผยแบบนี้ คุณก็จะได้อีเมลที่ส่งถึงคุณเกี่ยวกับเรื่องบนเตียงอย่างมากมาย ถ้าคุณเขียนเกี่ยวกับเรื่องเซ็ก เหมือนกับเจอผู้หญิงที่อยู่ในบาร์ที่เขาพบครั้งแรก ทางที่ดีให้เรื่องนี้ออกไปจาก Profile

I am looking for a Reaส man/woman, with all the letters of REAL

คนส่วนมากจะเป็นของแท้ค่ะ ฉะนั้นไม่ต้องกลัวที่จะเจอของเทียม ดูเหมือนกับคุณเคยจะมีประสบการณืที่ไม่ดีจากความสัมพันธ์ Real or not Real มา แต่ตอนนี้มันจบแล้ว

เริ่มไม่ดีกว่าค่ะ ลืมมันไป และมองในแง่ดีเกี่ยวกับ การการออนไลน์หาคู่ หรือเรียกว่า

A positive attitude to Online Dating และเปิดใจที่จะพบคนใหม่เจอกันหลังจากอีเมลพบกันอย่างซึ่งหน้า ที่มีผูคนเยอะ จะได้ปลอดภัยด้วยค่ะ  และในการสนทนาคคุณก็น่าจะเดาออกว่าเขาเป็นชายแท้หรือ

ขอให้เจ้าชายในฝันนะค่ะ

หาเพื่อน หาคู่ หาคนรู้ใจต่างชาติ

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Visualize being on a crusade to find THE ONE, that exceptional person with whom you can gladly spend your life. To locate that person, you'd have to undertake a course of trial and error. This entails going on a single date after one more to be introduced with potential mates and to determine whether one of them is the correct guy or gal for you.

It's a difficult, long trial that covers several affairs of mingling with parts of the opposite sex.

Speed dating streamlines the complete course.

With speed dating, you can date numerous individuals within an hour. How can this be done? There are a lot of speed dating assitance today, and online speed dating insitutions that deals with your claims and addition through the web, which puts in order these speed dating actions. Sign up for one, join, and get to date dozens of potential life companions.

The method it goes is like this: guys are divided from females. Girls sit down in chairs far from each other. A guy participant is assigned to a particular gir for a particular amount of time (which is normally 5 minutes, thus the name "speed dating"). After the time expires, the guy will continue to "date" another female. The method will recur itself until each male has dated each female in the occasion.

Frequently, speed dating services conduct compatibility sessions to finish each occasion, where the members are required to choose the person who they think they can be lovingly linked with. Though, during the years, majority of speed dating services have abandoned this routine so that other members won't be missed out. As a substitute, they encourage the members to interact with each one and allow possibilities for the participants to chase for themselves.

Speed dating is an excellent choice in these fast times of the new millennium.

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Zwar gibt’s die Seite und dazugehörende Programm schon einige Wochen (oder gar Monate?) im Netz, allerdings scheint es sich noch nicht sonderlich herumgesprochen zu haben.

Die Rede ist von Flinkk.

In Anlehnung an den vielleicht bekannten Speed-Dating-Gedanken wurde eine Plattform geschaffen auf der man ein Profil anlegen kann, ein Programm runterladen muss und dann anschließend neue Leute kennenlernen kann.

Das geht so von statten, dass jedes Mitglied, dass das Programm auf dem Rechner hat und laufen lässt nach und nach immer wieder einen potenziellen Gesprächspartner angezeigt. Gefällt eine dann was man sieht, hat man 15 Sekunden Zeit um die andere Person anzusprechen. So das Prozedere im Kurzdurchlauf. Eine mit Sicherheit bessere Beschreibung, die auch noch bildlich unterlegt ist, findet ihr auf der "Wie funktioniert Flink"-Seite.

Die Firma hinter dem Programm nennt sich Xanlee GmbH und sagt mir nichts. Die Gesichter hinter dem Projekt kann man sich die "Über uns"-Seite anschauen.

Die Idee halte ich für sehr lustig und einfallsreich. Leider hapert es an der Umsetzung insofern, dass es einfach zu wenig Benutzer gibt. Das heißt, selbst wenn man das Programm laufen lässt kann es schon mehrere Minuten dauern bis mal überhaupt ein Match angezeigt wird.

But I wouldn't.

I mean, I love that stuff, and I'm pretty excited about ventures like ProPublica. Nevertheless, I think a great yarn, well told, or a positive story that gets into the meat of an issue and analyzes it in a new way is important. So it's been interesting (and a little gut-wrenching?) for me to read some of the reader commentary on the cover story I had in the Chicago Tribune Magazine over the weekend. Here's one of my favorites, from someone named "FatNSassy":

I am a little more interested in how speculation is driving up the cost of oil and food. I would like to hear about the people of Haiti are forced to eat mud pies while their government sends one million dollars a week to the richest countries in the world via the World Bank to pay its debt. Is the city of Atlanta still facing severe water shortages? Several major economist think we are in deep deep trouble with no way out. If anyone needs proof MSM has become nothing more than propaganda, this is it.

I empathize with FatNSassy -- there's definitely a lot of terrible stuff happening in the world. And we need to write about it. And more important, we need to write about the terrible stuff happening that most readers don't know about. But frankly, there are some things that seem like fluff on the surface -- for example, a story about the science of attraction -- that are potentially pretty important. If these guys can save even 100 marriages from divorce (and I know, that's a lot to ask) think of the benefit to society. Isn't that worth a few million dollars in grants over the course of a few decades? If these guys are overturning decades worth of research, isn't that interesting? And aren't you just the least bit curious about why you end up with who you end up with?

All that said, it's nice to do a story once in awhile that my mom can send to her friends without having to spend 5 minutes explaining why they should read it.

Remember when video dating was the thing to do? You went to their office and made a tape of who you were, and what you were looking for. If you looked good on TV, you were picked. If not, you were screwed. It was kind of like the Nixon/Kennedy debate. Everyone that heard it on the radio (those were still popular back then) swore that Nixon won and was quite the victor. However, TV was in it's infancy, and Nixon was not prepared for the look. He came off looking like some sort of crook or something (not that he ever was), and people who watched it voted hands down for Kennedy. It was as if there were two different debates.

This was the same way. If you looked good on paper, you could still be a dork and get dates. If you looked good on video, you had it made at these sites. Still, people who were not photogenic at all (should that be videogenic?) were still plunking down their $30-50 for the service. Maybe they just wanted to watch videos of other people. A dating service for voyeurs and pervs? Who knows. I tried it once.

I watched some videos, like what you would do in one of those porn shops, or sperm bank donation booth. You pick whoever you think might work out, then they watch your video. If they picked you, then you got a date. Never mind that people were putting their deepest darkest secrets on tape for anyone to see in the privacy of their booth. You talk, I'll watch.

Well, there is a whole new breed of dating services out there, and they call themselves Singles Groups or Social Groups. I have actually dug up a few here on the Central Coast, and it is quite interesting. Here is what I found out:

Let's start with the two biggest ones. It is arguable which one is truly bigger, as they are secretive and boastful about their lists, but let's go with the one that claims to have the bigger numbers (swollen claims get you to the top).

Travel Connections Social Club was started by Dianne Tuttle about 10 years ago to drum up travel business and make a service for people who liked to travel but didn't want to go alone. She set up trips and meetings to talk about trips, then there came dinners and BBQs to get people to socialize. It became one big social group designed around a travel service. It actually serves a very good purpose, if you've ever seen how much it costs to travel alone. Rooms, cruises, and other accomodations are charged by pairs. If you get a room alone, it is the same price for one or two people. Why not share the costs? You also end up with a "travel buddy" or companion that you can spend time with on tours. This group is primarily older settled people who want to travel now, and have time for it. There is also the younger part that only travels on occasion and see it as a way to socialize in the meantime. She claims to have about 1,000 singles across a broad area.

New Life Christian Singles is run by the New Life Christian Fellowship in Pismo Beach, and claims to have about 700+ singles in their database. Most of their events are centered around church and fellowship, such as movies about being a better single through Christianity, pot lucks and game nights with a little preaching here and there, but also some outdoor activities such as hiking and outings. They have some pretty good events, and an active calendar. They promote a God-centered lifestyle for singles. Not all their members are from their church. They reach out to other churches for their singles, as well, and some members don't go to any of those churches at all. They have secular members also, so don't be afraid to check it out. If they scare you away by getting too preachy, tell them you know the Opinionator, and let me know about it.

Central Coast Singles is pretty much a clearing house of singles events and groups. This group run by Gerald Craig was started in early 2005 to fill the needs of singles who were tired of the bar scene and pickups, but still wanted to get out. It is a social group that allows for singles to meet, and possibly find a love in their life. With 400 single friends on their MySpace page, over 200 in their database, another 120+ in their Yahoo Groups, and about 150 on a mailing list, this one is perhaps the most puzzling of all. Although they have events every week of the month, they still cram a bunch more stuff into their schedule from other groups that wish to submit to them. To look at their calendar, it is so full, how do you pick what you want to do? However, with a goal of making as much available for members and other singles, this certainly fits the bill as the way to get out there and have fun. Look for ball games, dancing at the Big Chill at the Graduate on the first Saturday of each month, singles mingles, other dinners and dancing, speed dating, movies, game nights, BBQs and much more. This is probably the first place to stop for singles from Paso Robles and San Miguel to Lompoc and the Santa Ynez Valley.

Central Coast Catholic Network out of Nipomo is a singles group that doesn't want to be called a singles group. I guess some of the members didn't want to be associated as single, and want it to be more of a social group, rather than a singles group. This group is faith based, but they have members of all levels of faith. You don't have to be Catholic to join, although many events are associated with the Catholic Church. They do many other things, sometimes interfacing with other singles groups and doing their own events. They have gone dancing, to concerts, dinners, parties, potlucks, the Melodrama, attend mass together, and much more. Run by Adele Zelena, this is a relatively wholesome group, that appeals to a more conservative base. Call (805) 878-4464

North County Christian Singles are brought together by Jeanette Bush in Paso Robles for game nights, dinners, bowling, and other events found around the area. Jeanette started this group to fill a need for social events for singles in the Paso Robles area. They visit the Spirit West Conference in Monterey, and do other faith based events, both on their own and with the New Life group. This is a good group to contact for carpooling to other singles events. Of course, with any carpooling, it is suggested that you get to know each other first. North County Singles should contact her.

Camping Love of Adventure is the first one we find that has dues to pay, but it is worth the info they provide and the fun. It is a nonprofit camping group that hosts events monthly including camping, potlucks, campfires, and various outings. Widows, widowers, divorced, unmarried, and individuals with a chronically incapacitated spouse are welcome. Yearly dues are $10. Events go all over, and involve several levels of participation, which are up to you to choose. For local chapter info contact Bev Pritchett and Sharon Harrison: 937-3268 or twobirds2@verizon.net.

Singles Meeting Friends & Soulmates is run by Dolores Segui in Santa Maria. This is a limited group, with about +/- 30 members, in a controlled rotation of events. They visit the Big Chill dance monthly, follow a band called Unfinished Business to various venues, frequent dinners, movies, miniature golf, beach & lake parties, travel out of town for singles events, and occasional singles cruises as available. This group has different levels of participation, controlled by the owner of the group, who choses who will participate in what events. If you work well in a very controlled environment with seating arrangements and specific expectations, this is the group for you. Contact lolysegui@comcast.net for more information on this group.

Singles Charity Mixer set up by Dena Cagliero of First American Title Company has an event every quarter that costs $25 to attend. You pay the fee, listen to 3 guest speakers for about 3 minutes each, and you "vote" for your favorite charity. This charity gets what is left of your $25 donation after processing charges. She tries to put together 40 men and 40 women for each event to raise about $2,000. Of course, they "SKIM" a bit of your donation for processing fees or whatever. They target singles 25 to 55 years old, so you may be discouraged from attending if you are younger or older. Of course, your money is just as green as any other single person's, and why wouldn't a 55 year old be interested in a 58 year old? They also want professional people who can be charitable, which to me means deep pockets. They also limit the ratio to 1:1 men to women, which means you could be stuck with only one choice of person to chat with through the night unless you switch quickly to another person. You may also not find who or what you are looking for this way. If you do not preregister with your credit card (Big Brothers Big Sisters takes their percentage for processing that for you), you will pay more at the door and may be turned away. You have to buy your own drinks (expensive) and may be solicited for more donations during the event, so be sure to bring plenty of tip money. Apparently, not as many singles are participating in this as there used to be, especially guys. TIP: If you attend one of these events, there are 2 bars. The one "captive" bar is much more expensive than the other bar. If you can sneak out to the other bar, you could save $2-4 per drink! What's with an $8 Manhattan? Contact Dena at dcagliero@firstam.com for more info on this.

Although Santa Barbara is on the Central Coast, this is outside our normal coverage area. However, since we mentioned Central Coast Singles that reaches down to Santa Ynez Valley, and Travel Connections Social Club that reaches further, we have to mention these groups also. You can see that I like to be fair when I can, or want to...

Camaradas is run by Derick Loyd and covers Santa Barbara to the Santa Ynez Valley. They have dinners every month, as well as some events in the Santa Barbara area. Dinner is twice monthly in Buellton/Santa Ynez. It costs $8 to be on their list for events. If you want to meet people for dinner and chat, or want to drive down to Santa Barbara for other events, then this is the group to check out.

There are two more singles groups in Santa Barbara. One has singles mixers, and the other one has wine and dine. If you are interested in those groups, learn about Google. If you are nice to me and give me some hot leads to things here on the Central Coast, and contribute to our stories and opinions, I may give you the information I have. Good luck with that.

I will throw this in just for the heck of it. There is a cafe in Paso Robles called Cafe Vio at 1111 Riverside where they have a monthly Speed Dating or other singles event on the 3rd or 4th weekend each month. If you have never heard of speed dating before, it is where you have a seat and talk with someone of the opposite sex for about 4-5 minutes, then rotate on to the next one. Once you have completed the rounds, you mark on your card who you are interested in, and turn it in. It is a fun way to meet people, and find out if you might be interested in meeting them some time later. It is like reading a personal ad. They will change things around on occasion until they find out what works best for them.

Since I brought up speed dating, I should also mention SLO Speed Dating run by Jenny Brantlee. They tried an event at the Courtyard by Marriott in SLO, but it is unclear whether that event happened according to the numbers they attracted. Cost was set at $29 to include a drink. You can contact Jenny at (805) 234-7279 for more info and to see if they are going to try it again.

If I am going to mention those speed dating events, I should mention that one successful event was held by Central Coast Singles in May 2008. Over 40 singles participated in various age ranges, and it seemed to go well. From what I can determine, it was held, and matches were made. It is planned to have another one around September, which may include music and dancing, and perhaps seminars or classes for the price. You can contact (805) 602-0051 for more information and possible dates for this event.

That is all we have to say about Singles Groups. Remember, next time we talk about dating, it will include FREE sites for personal ads, a well as listing those that make you pay for everything. Some you cannot even contact anyone or read email without paying, but they tell you it is FREE to place an ad. Okay, what good does it do me to place an ad, when I can't contact anyone? Watch for that installment soon.

I want to thank those who contributed to this listing, but also want to chastise those that ignored our requests for information. It is obvious that if you ignore The Opinionator, your information will still be put out here. Therefore, I am not responsible for corrections to any information you failed to provide to me. On the other hand, since this is an opinion Blog, I guess that means I don't have to be factual at all. Remember that everything in this blog is OPINION only, and not worth the paper it is written on. Wait, it isn't on paper, so I guess it is worthless. Well, then that settles that. I don't care if you ignored me, I'll say what I want.

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Ok.  So three of us registered and hence our began our adventures. So the two of them found me using the 'Recently Added' features and ....... to my ultimate HORROR when i saw that Kev has registered using this nick

I mean who would call themself a man dragon....unless their erm manhood..is errrr well....no comments. 

Maybe then, his nick isn't so bad after all cause i browsed through the whole listing of males between 27 and 32 and found 'Dragons' who looked like he came out from some Bollywood movie!

But then having a corny nick isnt nearly as bad as posting your semi-nude picture and claiming u speak 5 languages and asking chics to try you....

..or perhaps even claiming to be a leng zai (handsome) but only revealing your eyes....in you profile pic

Well, of course there are also the shy ones, who do not put their pics and try to remain some elements of mystery..

And so, I was relating my erm..speed dating experience to George and...apparently, he has his fair share too ( oh god, he is so gonna kill me when he realized I have actually pasted his whole msn conversation)

Speed dating works because there are only two questions: Do I want to snuggle her? and Does she want to snuggle me?  (Sorry about the language, but it's a family oriented blog.) One of those questions answers itself if you're single and she's hot.  The other one gets answered when she checks a box next to your name.   Is that how we should screen employees? 

The problem with speed dating for candidates is that speed dating works because you already know what you're looking for.  In speed dating, people get eliminated for being the wrong religion, or too fat, or too old, or not rich enough.  In some recruiting environments, the same filters get applied. But that's not the typical HR strategy. 

When you're growing a company, who you hire matters.  Snap judgements can be disasterous. A hiring manager with tunnel vision won't ever be challenged on his assumptions about what it takes to do the job.  With the ever increasing diversity of the workforce, speed recruiting allows someone to churn through great candidates while looking for a needle in a haystack.  It's a huge waste time and money even before the lawsuit gets filed.

The other problem is that the kind of person who gets picked a lot in speed dating will also do well in speed recruiting.  Shouldn't recruiters be pushing for better than that? 

If I were hiring, I'd rather sit down with 5 truly well qualified people than the 25 walk-ons who are willing to be treated like cattle. 

If I were job hunting, I'd want to know that the hiring manager actually read my resume before I sat down.  But if I can't get that, I hope they at least have a swim-suit competition.  Because then when I get the offer, I'll feel even better about all the sit-ups I do. 

Now incase you have been under a rock for the past  ten years or so the concept of speed dating is simple:

Guys and girls are involved in a series of mini “dates”, these mini dates usually last about 3 to 8 minutes sometimes as long as 10 minutes depending on the set up. Much like a follow along adventure book you read as kid, you know when your date is over  when Tinkerbell rings the bell. This bell ringing is the signal that it is time to move on to the next date.  When the speed dating as a whole is complete the participants pass along to the event cords a list of who they are interested in having their contact info. If there is a match then both parties information is traded with one another. If not well at least you had free food and drinks (in most cases). Information is never traded during the date so that no one is pressured or feels the sting of rejection (as if you can’t see the big ole’ DENIED, written on their face.)

Now did I mention people pay for this? If you’re wondering if speed dating is a new age torture device the answer is “Yes!”  So like any modern man I decided to spin the wheel of love and try this speed dating. My decent into the mouth of madness began when I was flipping through the local Nuvo and saw that a local bar was hosting a Gay Speed Dating event.  I must admit that I was curious seeing this as a up-graded form of love connection minus the fifty bucks and Chuck Woolery, I went online to the site and signed up. The company running this was called Speed Star Dating, their motto was, “Become the star of your on date!” I should had known with a slogan like that this adventure would quickly turn into an experiment in terror.

The way Speed Star worked was simple, I paid 60 bucks to sit on pins and needles to check my email to see if I had a match after the event took place. At the event we were all given cards to keep track of the guys, make notes and to check yes or no if we were interested in getting to know them better. I had selected to be what they called a “Selector”. This was a person who sits at a table and lets the men come to them. I figured since I was paying 60 bucks for this, I would let the rejection come to me.  Once the evening was over the pins and needle time wold begin as I would log onto the site and mark “yes” for the ones I was interested in and “no” for the ones I wasn’t. I would be contacted via email if there was a match. Once a match was made you would be sent each others contact information. Now that all these little details were in place I sat down and waited for my first potential match.

Tony was the mane of the first potential match. He seemed nervous as if he had just got done smoking a eight ball of crack. Maybe he was high off the Old Spice I couldn’t really tell. He had the same bugger out, wet rat look of Steve Buscemi. As he began to talk I just knew it was going to be a long night.

Tony: (clocked speech at about 125 mph) Hey, I am Tony and I love to chill out at bars and play darts. I also work, work alot of long crazy hours so much so that I take alot of no-doze. Like I am not addicted or anything I just take em cause I need to stay up and like I have trouble understanding why they card you for these I mean they are just caf...

Tony fell face down asleep on the table. Needless to say that he made the short list. As Tinkerbell rang her bell, Tony had to be aided by six of the event staff. Corey was next up. He was cute in that James Dean ventage kind of way. He sat down and smiled, already this seemed like a good match.

Corey: Hey, I’m Cory, I am 25 and live in Broad Ripple. I work for the Hoosier Lotto firm as an accountant and I enjoy movies, dancing, cooking and just staying in with that right guy on a rainy night. So what sign are you?

Me: I’m a s...

Corey: Sagittarius I just knew it. I knew there was something special about you when I first sat down.

Me: Actually Corey, I am a Scorpio. (Awkward laugh)

Corey: Oh (Silence)

Tinkerbell chimes her bell and the next wanna-be date sits down. Todd was suspect number three in the case of the dateless fag.

Todd: So Johnny, tell me about yourself in one word.

Me: Um-well...

Todd: Um is not a word Johnny and well is not used to describe oneself.  Unique. I am best described as unique. I am like a unique experience like one you find at the Melting Pot. There are so many layers to me some fun while others are really deep and reflective.

DING!

Kyle: (Crosses his shaved legs showing off his SJP Manolo Blahniks) This your first time doing this?

Me: Yes. (Long awkward silence) Are you a Tran....

Kyle: Yes, a trannie. Well I prefer the term Transsexual.

Me: (Sips rum and coke, sees glass is empty and flags down waiter by shaking the glass.)

DING!

Me: You look familiar. Have we met before?

Jason: I don’t think so.

Me: (Ponders for a second) Oh yeah we have, you’re that stripper who sat on my friend Kyle’s face at the Unicorn. I didn’t recognize you with your clothes on. Wow you look great under normal lighting.

Jason: Thank ...you.

(Silence)

DING!

Paul: Mmmm I just love me some chocolate. I would love to spread my vanilla sauce all over...

Me: NEXT!

In the words of Coral Smith, I hate to say it looks grim but it looked really damn grim.
I was just about to give up when after thirty-five guys, the last one sat down at my table.

Eric: So I see you survived dating gauntlet.

Me: Barley. Johnny here.

Eric: I’m Eric. So tough crowd here it seems. I seem to have been meeting all the weirdos all night long. Are there any normal guys in Indianapolis?

Me: I was wondering the same thing too. So Eric tell me about yourself.

Eric: Well...you know I bet you haven’t been able to tell anyone about yourself all night. Have ya?

I shook my head no to which he gestured for me to go first. We didn’t even hear the bell ring time was up. I got home and plugged in my results and I was delighted to that Eric put me down as a match too. So it seemed that this worked out after all, until his wife answered the phone.

I should had sued Speed Star for mental distress, what the hell was I thinking? It occurred to me that the long pauses, the awkward silences, the embarrassing run-ins with strippers would had never happened on Gay.com.  Online you have that buffer to realize what you are about to say may make you sound like a complete ass or worse. While speed dating takes out most of the guess work and hooks people up who may not speak with one another in a bar setting, this up-grade in dating has taken away some of the fun in courtship. After all part of the fun in dating is the chance encounters that come along with it. Also paying for the privilege to talk to complete strangers is nothing more than prostitution in better lighting.

In the end it is hard to say if speed dating is a fad that will die out as time marches on. All I can say is that although it has made for a good laugh, I am unsure if I will enter the realm of speed dating anytime soon. I am an old fashioned kind of guy. I’ll stick to the chat rooms for now.

This should be a new top quetion:

Do you go Dutch?

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