Mr. Insen.

Mulla, ton âne a disparu!

- Dieu merci, je n'étais pas dessus à ce moment-là, autrement j'aurais disparu avec lui!

Les subtilités de l'inimitable Mulla Nasrudin, Idries Shah, 1983

Miles Davis - Deception - 1949

Ø  Look out of the window and enjoy the sight of a fresh day – add some accessories to your outfit that suit the weather; hat, sun glasses or an umbrella.

Ø  Look in the mirror and smile at yourself.

Ø  Brush your teeth and use a mouthwash.

Ø  Make your bed; at least put the pillow in its correct place.

Ø  Spare a glance at your room. If you feel that the things on your side table need to be adjusted, please spend a couple of minutes doing so.

Ø  Greet your parents with your best smile.

Ø  Have your breakfast without making a fuss.

Ø  Read the headlines in the newspaper, they make interesting discussion topics during the break-time.

Ø  Leave for school with a sweet note – wish your parents a good day and tell them that you really love them. 

The Friday Class article is published in Young Times.

Anda mengkhawatirkan dirinya, dianggap posesif, Anda perhatian eh, dikira ngatur. Ah… jangan buru-buru senewen dulu. Mungkin karena dia memang sudah punya stereotip tentang perempuan yang perlu diluruskan. Nah, tugas Andalah yang melakukannya.

Perempuan cerewet
Kenyataannya
Menurut penelitian, perempuan punya kemampuan berbahasa lebih baik dibanding pria. Saat bicara, perempuan memakai kedua sisi otak kiri dan kanan sekaligus. Selain itu, otak pria memiliki kemampuan menyortir informasi, sedangkan perempuan cenderung mengaduk dan mengendapkannya dalam pikiran. Bicara adalah cara Anda mengatasi masalah yang dihadapi.

Laki-laki sulit memahami keinginan perempuan karena Anda tidak pernah puas atas apa pun yang mereka berikan
Kenyataannya
Sesungguhnya Anda cukup puas dan bangga atas hasil yang diberikan pasangan, tapi sebagai perempuan Anda bisa melihat potensi pasangan bahwa ia bisa melakukan lebih baik lagi. Biar tak salah paham, sekecil apa pun usaha dia untuk menyenangkan Anda, beri apresiasi. Ucapan terima kasih dengan tulus cukup membesarkan egonya.

Perempuan terlalu sensitif sehingga terkadang tidak rasional
Kenyataannya
Disadari atau tidak, perempuan berkomunikasi dengan perasaan lebih banyak ketimbang pria. Seorang neurolog , profesor Ruben Gur dari University of Pennsylvania menggunakan uji scan otak untuk memperlihatkan bahwa otak laki-laki ketika dalam keadaan istirahat, sedikitnya 70% aktivitas elektriknya ‘mati’. Sedangkan pada otak perempuan, 90% aktivitas elektriknya tetap menyala. Menjadi sensitif dan dapat berpikir rasional dalam waktu yang bersamaan adalah kelebihan Anda.

Perempuan ingin selalu mengontrol dan menguasai laki-laki
Kenyataannya
Perempuan bukan ingin mengontrol, hanya ingin memastikan saja bahwa Si Dia baik-baik saja. Anda hanya ingin selalu jadi orang pertama yang hadir saat pasangan menghadapi masalah untuk memberikan kenyamanan dan ketentraman. Saat pasangan kesepian, Anda ingin memastikan bahwa dia tidak sendiri.

Perempuan mandiri tidak butuh laki-laki
Kenyataannya
Menjadi superwoman bukan berarti Anda tak butuh pasangan dan alergi pada sayang-sayangan. Katakan padanya bahwa Anda tetap butuh dia untuk memberi dukungan, melindungi dan menguatkan perasaan saat terpuruk. Terkadang, Anda hanya butuh kalimat yang menenangkan dari pasangan untuk membuat perasaannya aman.

Perempuan punya radar pendeteksi di kepalanya
Kenyataannya
Perempuan, seperti juga sebagian besar binatang mamalia betina, dilengkapi dengan kecakapan indera yang jauh lebih baik daripada pria. Menurut Allan dan Barbara Pease, penulis Sillyman from Mars, Pitywoman from Venus, sebagai orang yang melahirkan dan penjaga rumah, mereka butuh kemampuan merasakan suasana hati, dan perubahan sikap pada orang lain.

Peran ibu dalam membesarkan anak-anak memiliki pengaruh yang sangat besar. Bagaimana kepribadian dan cara Anda menjalani hidup dipercaya akan menjadi kerangka saat menjalankan peran sebagai orangtua. Hal tersebut bisa menentukan akan menjadi seperti apa anak-anak saat dewasa nanti dan generasi apa yang akan terbentuk di masa datang.

Berdasarkan penelitian global yang dilakukan oleh PT Kimberly-Clark terhadap lebih dari 5.000 ibu dengan bayi sampai anak berusia 3 tahun serta ibu hamil dari seluruh dunia (2.000 di antaranya adalah ibu-ibu di Asia Tenggara, termasuk Indonesia), terungkap enam tipe peranan ibu. Model peranan ibu ini secara luas menjelaskan perbedaan cara pengasuhan ibu secara global, termasuk persepsi mereka mengenai anak dan apa yang terbaik untuk mereka.

Walau hanya sedikit wanita yang seutuhnya masuk dalam salah satu tipe peranan, semua ibu akan mendekati satu tipe peranan dan sebagian besar wanita memiliki sifat gabungan antara dua atau lebih peranan.

The Playful Mother
Ia spontan, tidak banyak pikiran, suka bereksperimen, trendi, dan hangat.
Ia menginginkan anaknya menjadi: selalu ingin tahu, ceria, aktif, suka bereksplorasi, mengejutkan.
Sikap menjadi orangtua: sebagai teman bermain sama halnya menjadi ibu, ia mendorong rasa ingin tahu bahkan kenakalan, dan menciptakan lingkungan yang merangsang perkembangan bayi.
Di Asia, tipe ibu ini lebih memiliki rasa sayang dan menyenangkan serta tidak banyak pikiran dibandingkan ibu-ibu di negara lain. Di Asia Tenggara terdapat 18,1 persen ibu dengan tipe ini.

The Natural Mother
Ia ceria, pintar, penuh kasih sayang, dan penyayang.
Ia menginginkan anaknya menjadi bahagia, mandiri, terbuka.
Sikap menjadi orangtua: Menggunakan pendekatan yang santai dalam membesarkan anak, menunjukkan kasih sayang, mudah bergaul sebagai teman dan ibu.
Tipe ibu ini di Asia ada 22,9 persen dan mereka berjuang untuk membentuk lingkungan yang lebih sempurna bagi anaknya. Mereka juga mendorong anak-anak mereka agar bisa lebih mandiri.

The Protective Mother
Ia berhati-hati, rajin, mengabdi, lembut, konservatif, tidak suka risiko.
Ia menginginkan anaknya menjadi innocent, lembut, berharga, terlindungi.
Sikap menjadi orangtua: Ia ingin menjadi sumber perlindungan dan rasa nyaman untuk anaknya. Anak adalah segalanya baginya.
Protective mother di Asia lebih mandiri dan sensitif pada perannya dan lebih terfokus pada anak-anaknya dibandingkan dengan ibu tipe ini di belahan dunia lainnya. Menurut survei ada 15,7 % ibu tipe ini di Asia Tenggara.

The Independent Mother
Ia aktif, suka berpetualang, berani, mandiri.
Ia menginginkan anaknya menjadi enerjik, sehat, mandiri, selalu ingin tahu, seseorang yang suka berpetualang.
Sikap menjadi orangtua: Ia percaya dengan kemampuannya dan bersikap tenang sebagai ibu. Menjadi ibu baginya adalah petualangan yang benar-benar ia nikmati.
Tipe ibu ini di Asia berbeda dengan di negara lain karena mereka lebih kompetitif dan terfokus pada perkembangan intelektual anak dan berkeinginan untuk dianggap sebagai ibu yang trendi. Menurut survei ada 12,3 % independent mother di Asia Tenggara.

The Ambitious Mother
Ia berorientasi pada tujuan, sukses, gaya, suka menuntut.
Ia menginginkan anaknya menjadi lebih besar, lebih baik, satu langkah lebih baik, seorang pemenang.
Sikap menjadi orangtua: Disiplin. Bangga bisa memberikan yang terbaik untuk anaknya. Ia mengarahkan impian yang besar dan bekerja keras untuk menyalurkan bakat anak agar sukses di masa depan. Ibu dengan tipe ini ada 16,2 % di Asia Tenggara.

The Competent Mother
Ia bertanggung jawab, rasional, berpikiran jernih, teliti, dan selalu memiliki informasi terkini.
Ia menginginkan anaknya dibesarkan dengan baik, bersih, dapat tampil, dan menguasai banyak keterampilan.
Sikap menjadi orangtua: terencana dengan baik, lingkungan yang sempurna, bangga bila dapat memberikan anaknya permulaan yang baik.
Ibu tipe ini di Asia lebih memfokuskan perhatian pada intensitas bermain di atas standar, sementara di negara lain ibu tipe ini lebih fokus terhadap perkembangan intelektual.

Watch your Mouth because it's YOU you're telling the most about. 

Over the weekend I had an email exchange that really made my blood boil.  Someone whom I've known professionally for several years questioned my integrity.

Being who I am, I checked my gut after reading her email and thought, "Wow, maybe she's got a point, I hadn't really elaborated on what affiliate marketing was when she asked my opinion about someone whose products have helped me a great deal."

I thanked her for her thoughts and told her I would make a note to make it clear when I'm linking to people I support whether they are or are not people from whom I could receive an affiliate commission.  I pointed out that since she asked me the question on the phone and I told her my honest opinion on the phone, there would have been no way for me to receive a commission from her purchase.

All well and good, but the next part is the doozy.

The following is an excerpt from her response. 

"...but most people aren't interested in marketing just to make piles of money, as [ ] is. Maybe I'm naïve about people's core values, but I see NAME REMOVED as more than a little carried away with greed, and willing to amass money no matter how [it] offends people with [their] advertising onslaughts. It has certainly worked for [them] financially, but at what cost to [their] soul? You can see I have no respect for [their] business tactics. Once I saw how [they] operated I was very disappointed to have invested so much money in [the] program."

 Whew!  That got my inner warrior worked up!  I was all ready to send a pithy response about how I have a hard enough time focusing on my own soul to be worried about someone else's soul.  Then I sat with it and realized that this person wanted someone to blame for not being where she wants to be financially.  She feels that virtuously "making enough to get by" is more soul-worthy than making millions.   And I realized that she wanted someone to take the responsibility for her current financial place.  I don't know what spurred the animosity - 6 months AFTER our conversation -- but maybe she's had the product sitting on her desk that long is angry that she hasn't taken action?

Got me.

Instead of the pithy email response, I replied thanking her for sharing her thoughts and reminding her that the person in question does have an iron-clad money-back gurantee. That if she didn't like what she had, she should return it.

Her response drove home to me that she was just having a bad day, angry at the world, or what have you and needed someone to vent to.

"Thanks for the reminder about NAME REMOVED guarantee. I didn’t remember it. Don’t get me wrong, I have no quarrel with making money, and lots of it. What I take issue with is abusing others to get it, which in my opinion is what NAME REMOVED does with [their] marketing approach. Amassing money just for the sake of watching it build is a soul-less pursuit. Amassing money while doing good works, enriching others or the environment, or helping those who can’t help themselves – for me that is money well earned and the process of accumulating it enriches my soul as well as my bank account. Different strokes."

 Okay then, different strokes.

It was one person's thoughts and it drove home the idea that what we put out there is actually a reflection of how we see ourselves.   For some reason, this person sees limits and parameters to making money.  It's not a wonder that she has a frustrating relationship with money.  I wanted to point out that the person in question does in fact publicly make a difference in their community and that that alone led me to believe that they're likely doing a lot more that doesn't get publicized.

So it shows me, as a spiritual service-preneur, when doing my marketing because I really want to reach people and be of service, I'm going to get some folks that neither "get" or like me.  The more success I have, I will have more people who question my integrity.  I have to solidly okay with who I know I amas a human being and with what I deliver in my business, so that I can read messages like the above as that of someone who is simply mirroring their fear and not someone who can tell affect me at my core.

Different strokes I suppose. 

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Aktor muda yang pandai memainkan ekspresi wajahnya ini memulai karirnya di dunia perfilman lewat film Gie. Kesempatan bermain dalam film besutan Riri Riza ini datang tanpa diduga saat ia berada di Cilandak Town Square

Kala itu seorang perempuan berteriak dan mencegat langkahnya di pusat belanja itu. Ia mengenalkan diri sebagai staf di Miles Production yang sedang mencari pemeran Soe Hok Gie muda dan menawarkan Jojo ikut casting.

Meski tak punya pengalaman akting, Jojo berhasil menyabet peran itu. Semenjak film itu Jojo sudah bermain di tiga film layar lebar dan belasan film televisi.

Baginya proses film Gie yang sangat berjasa membangun karirnya. Saat syuting film itulah ia memperoleh ilmu penyiapan peran dan akting yang prima. “Itu jadi bekal saya sampai sekarang.”

Dari tiga film yang diperankannya, dua kali ia memainkan sosok muda dari tokoh utama dalam film. Meski sudah mulai dijuluki spesialis peran muda, Jojo sendiri ragu ia bisa memerankan sosok kecilnya dulu sebab ia merasa sudah banyak berubah.

Pria yang sempat bercita-cita menjadi pelukis ini mengingat ia dulu pendek, gemuk, dan tak mengikuti tren gaya dan pergaulan. “Malah saya pernah bilang enggak mau main film karena lampunya panas,” kata Jojo mengingat kata-katanya saat mengunjungi sebuah lokasi syuting film.

Tanpa disadarinya, dunia film sudah memanggil penikmat musik reggae ini sejak masih muda belia. Ketika remaja lain hanya menonton film, Jojo justru lebih getol menonton tayangan soal seluk-beluk pembuatan sebuah film.

Tak heran kalau ia hafal betul persiapan aktor dan aktris sebelum bermain film. Dengan lancar ia menyerocos soal persiapan fisik Angelina Jolie sebelum bermain Tomb Raider hingga upaya Christine Hakim hidup bersama perempuan Aceh agar bisa memerankan sosok Cut Nyak Dhien dengan matang.

Selain soal seni peran, Jojo juga terpesona mengamati para pembuat film Hollywood menyiapkan set pengambilan gambar. Karena itu pemuda ini mengambil kuliah desain interior. “Yah, kalau saya sudah enggak kepake main film paling enggak masih bisa jadi art director,” katanya sambil tertawa lepas.

Jojo sendiri menikmati semua proses pembuatan film yang diikutinya. Saat memainkan Soe Hok Gie, ia merasakan sendiri kenikmatan tokoh aktivis itu mendaki gunung. Pria yang hobi travel ini juga senang ketika syuting film Mirror ia pergi ke danau di Bandung dan juga ke Lasem, Jawa Tengah saat mengambil gambar film Karma.

Satu hal yang tak menyenangkan dari silaunya ketenaran hanyalah kebiasaan yang aneh dari penggemar yang menelpon di pagi buta dan gosip yang kadang bikin panas telinga. Kala diterpa masalah, usapan lembut sang bunda di bahunya selalu bisa membuat harinya kembali ceria. “Semua masalah langsung hilang deh,” ujarnya.

Hingga kini Jojo masih memimpikan suatu hari bisa memainkan peran utama dalam film, namun ia tak mau ngoyo alias memaksakan diri. Mahasiswa yang membiayai sendiri kuliahnya ini tetap memilah peran yang ditawarkan dan hanya memilih film yang dengan alur cerita yang baik.

Jojo tak mau seperti tokoh Guan yang diperankannya di film Karma yang menghalalkan segala cara demi kesuksesan dan kekayaan. “Saya sih enggak mau jadi serakah apalagi bikin hal yang abnormal kayak dia, gila aja buat apa juga!” Oke deh.

I have strawberry scented shampoo, conditioner, and body wash. I'm afraid the body wash won't last long, though. I also want strawberry scented lotion. I like smelling fruity! XD

Also, while at a tennis tournament (won, lost, lost), we went to Target and I got a cute shirt and a little magnetic picture frame for my locker. I also got a locker mirror/bin that's really cool. I hope to go to Walgreen's because I saw a pencil pouch in their ad that was pretty cute.

It looks like I'm going to be number 3 singles on my tennis team. Huzzah!

Also, my older sister's best guy friend told us a funny story:

Him: Who are those gilrs?
Me: I don't think I know them. Why?
Him: Well, one of the was like "Owww!" and another was like "Shut up," and the first one was like "What? He's hot!"
My sister: You're too conceited.

I've decided that I'm too happy to be depressed.

Before preschool, would you have believed that your mother really was going to remember to come pick you up?

Before kindergarten, would you have believed how strong the smell of the throw-up removal product would be?

Before elementary school, would you have believed that some kids will be picked to be safety patrols and you might not be one of them?

Before middle school, would you have believed how many times you were going to hear Stairway to Heaven at "make-out parties" (assuming you were born around 1960 as I was)?

Before high school, would you have believed that what you did on the first day (and every day after) would go on your permanent record and determine your future trajectory?  Or so they said.

Before college, would you have believed that you weren't the only smart kid/yearbook editor/most likely to succeed arriving on campus?

Before graduation, would you have believed that you would have many careers and not just the one that you imagined?

Before marriage, would you have believed that you would receive that many toasters or that you could wake up that many mornings with the same person (equally hard to believe!)?

Before children, would you have believed that you and your spouse would find trips to Ikea to be satisfactory, even thrilling, dates?

Before middle-age, would you have believed that your children were not all going to be on the travel soccer team and go to Harvard?  And that that would be okay, even preferable.

Before your own parents died, would you have believed that you didn't yet think of yourself as a real grown-up?

Before retirement, would you have believed that you would have been able to buy your own gold watch long ago and that the cookies at the retirement party would be bought and not homemade?

Before the nursing home, would you have believed that you don't recognize the face in the mirror?

Before death, would you have believed that this is only a shadow of what is to come?

It's hard to believe!

The sliding glass door has been my nemesis for quite some time...

When we moved in getting that thing clean was an epic adventure.

So, this time I brought in the big blue genie...

Dawn.

"Basic" Dawn Dishwashing Detergent does a whole load of stuff....

I use it as the burnishing fluid in my tumbler.... I used it to scrub (with a softish but still slightly rigid brush) my big glass door before squeegeeing... And I have to confess, a squirt of blue Dawn down the commode every once in a while really helps to keep things moving (and get things moving...if the um offending stoppage isn't just paper...Hey, *%it happens. Also, I no longer even bother with stain remover on any greasy spots (even dairy leaves little greasy kisses on clothes)- as most of my clothes are cotton these days (good ol' casual Florida!)...I put a dab of Dawn on the top and underside of the stain (to really kick it's greasy arse) and throw it in the wash... Sure I love my "all natural" old school detergents and soaps, but Dawn is a great little weapon (and the small bottle lasts us around 6 months...and oddly enough, I tested some of the things I do with Dr. Bronner's and some of the more natural/branded/marketed stuff from Ada's Market and Dawn came out ahead...But for a quick cleaning of a mirror and everyday home maintenance I find that vinegar and water and baking soda work wonders....

I'm glad to see I'm not the only loony using dawn on windows- there was a gentleman on the today show with the dishwashing liquid suggestion as well. He had a nifty giant sponge though...Have to get me one of those...

Warren

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Sesuai dengan tujuan utama saya untuk kembali nge-blog yaitu membuat sebuah blog yang saya gunakan untuk mereview atau menceritakan tentang blog utama saya, ya semacam cermin bagi blog saya itu. Ibarat manusia yang butuh cermin untuk melihat bagaimana sebenarnya wujud kita, maka blog saya pun begitu, saya membuatkan sebuah cermin yang mungkin juga bisa saya jadikan sarana untuk introspeksi diri blog sendiri.

Baiklah, coba saya lihat kembali tulisan pertama saya di wirautama.net, judul post nya "Otonan". Oh bukan, ternyata itu bukan posting yang pertama tapi posting yang pertama adalah "Welcome". Dan coba kita lihat, siapa komentator pertama di blog saya, hohoho ternyata dia adalah seleb BBC, Mr. Saylow. Thanks buat saylow karena telah bersedia mampir kesana dan meninggalkan uang seikhlasnya jejak.

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~KR (Written on 3 August 2008 )

Listening to:
The Ballad of the Decomposing Man by Steve Hackett
From Spectral Mornings

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Dad's are awesome. I just want to make that clear. I've been having an issue with my car for the last month or so, namely, someone sideswiped my car one night (while I was absent) and annihilated my side view mirror. This was on the tail end of June, and my state inspection for my car was due in July. You can imagine the frustration and anger this caused. Of course people don't take responsility for their actions when they think or know they can get away with misdeeds, so I filed a completely worthless police report and called my insurance. Fast forward 4 or 5 weeks later and my dad comes up about 90 minutes/2 hours depending on traffic from Newport News to help me replace the mirror with one he found at a Pick 'n' Pull. Basically an auto mobile junk yard where you pay a little bit of money to go in and snag whatever you can carry. The mirror he got was too big to fit where the old one was, but we tried prying out the glass itself from the whole mirror. Bad move. It cracked all to hell, and we were back where we started.

My inspection was due yesterday so you can imagine the frustration I'm feeling at this point as we're going over our options, and I've got to hurry up and get ready for work. My dad also drove 90 miles to help me out only for naught. That burned. So I head to work bummed out about my mirror still being...not there. It's a busy as shit Saturday at Costco, as you'd expect, when my dad shows up surprisingly (he called but I couldn't answer on the clock), and tells me he found another mirror and he can replace it. I just have to give him my keys. So I do, come out a little bit later on my break and he's all done, everything is fixed and good to go. I was incredibly happy and relieved. My other options were finding out how much it'd cost to get an auto shop to replace the mirror (which would take time and money I don't have) and/or get an inspection just to get a rejection sticker, to buy me some time until I can get a mirror in place. I didn't like either of these options. But, seeing my depressed/frustrated state, my Dad went the extra mile today and came through for me, just to make me smile was worth it for him he said (in his way). And now I feel better about my damn car and can get it inspected Monday or Thursday when I'm off and not be stressed out about this shit anymore.

Now I just have to get back in the habit of using my driver side mirror.

I love you Dad, thanks. You da man.

One Love.

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