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With the help of a life coach, you will learn how to take inventory of your life, then how to make some difficult choices.

First with the help of a life coach, you will learn how to take inventory of your life, then how to make some difficult choices. Many business leaders will tell you that it is nearly impossible to make more money if you have no idea how much you're already making. The same is true for life improvement, if you do not know what areas of your life you want to improve, then how will you know what to improve. The problem however is with most individuals they are not objective enough to make proper assessment about themselves.

This is where a life improvement coach can help. They have the distance needed to analyze your individual situation objectively. Your life improvement coach may examine your marriage, personal relationships, job, and home, then make recommendations on the areas where he or she notices needs improvement. For instance if you have a tendency to become angry, aggressive, excitable, or analytical, then a persona ife coach can make suggestions to correct this behavior based on the observations they've noted.

Self-improvement is not black and white nor is it one size fits all. A plan, which has proven effective for one individual may not be the correct action for another individual. In order to devise a strategy, which is correct for you, first sit down with your life coach and take inventory. Your life coach can then help you improve the areas, which need improving and exploit the many excellent tools and resources you already have.

Use the comment section to access the author, Aliyah Marr. Tell her why you would be a great person to review this book.

... is to discover the world

and then

with all of your heart give yourself to it.

~ Buddha

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Abigail's Story Interview Link: Interview with Susan Bilheimer.

All About Us,

Who Are We Really Show

Guest Host - Anna Kujawa

It was a long week, I didn't sleep well on any given night, so I was tired. And I think there was some grieving energy that needed to be released, too. There have been some changes in my life recently, and I think there's still some letting go that is happening.

Also, I realized this week how important my Mondays and Fridays are to me. I tend to group my coaching calls with clients on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays. This gives me Monday and Friday to work on project-type work that requires bigger chunks of time and focus. What I realized this week (because I was traveling on Monday) is how important both days are to my energy and feeling of momentum.

A productive Monday starts my week off strong. I feel good going into Tuesday knowing that I've accomplished so many important things already. And a productive Friday closes my week off strong. I feel good taking the weekend off for rest and rejuvenation.

This week, I didn't have my productive Monday and instead of accepting that and being present to that reality, I resisted and tried to squeeze in my Monday all week long. So although it was a tough week, I'm happy I'm now conscious of all of this. Now I can set up boundaries (for myself and others) to protect Mondays and Fridays; and I can adjust my expectations and intentions in weeks when Monday or Friday isn't available to me for project work.

This story blows my mind! Why? Because I wrote it. Not in the 'cocky I'm cool because I wrote this' sense, but in the sense that this story came off the top of my head and towards the end I got some very cool new insight that I might be able to use in my coaching practice. But more importantly I hadn't realized how this story correlated with my life until about half way through. I noticed that my life mimics that of my story right now. Weird and freaky! But you know what? This has helped me find a few answers to what I was searching for. Which leads me to.... dun dun dun..... THE DABBLER

The dabbler is a person that talks the talk, does a little bit more talking and no doing. I've been experiencing that with many of my peers, relationships, friends and family, and as well as myself. At the end of the story I purposely left it open ended... just for you to think whether or not he realized that life had slipped away or he kept plowing away thinking his vision would come true before he died.

Some of us talk ourselves to death. We say, we say, we say, but most times never do. %98 of the world is like that. So it's pretty normal, right? Wrong. And here's why. The other %2 are the doers of the world, creating, changing, inventing all things possible, influencing, creating leadership. But, what if this generation, the generation Y kids, can access their inner resources enough to change the statistics? What if we can go up to %2.5? That's only 66 million people. And on top of that we'll have exponential growth for the next generations to come. This is my vision. To create a world of doers. Something I never was. Until the day I started at ICA. I became a doer then, and will help to create movers and shakers in this world. My commitment to you reading this, and to the quarterlifers that are ready for change.

Are you ready for this? This world is ready for some social change. Something more profound than anything has ever been. We're all on the prowl for world peace. And by that I mean inner-world-peace, the place where things flow, where dreams become reality, the place where fulfillment lies. We're all on a search for our purpose. And this is what I'm going to help you find, your purpose to freedom. Your drive to be a doer. And it starts at this first step.

Know what you want!

What is it in life that if you knew you couldn't fail would make you feel fulfilled in every way possible?
What is it in your life have you dabbled too much in and want to move forward with?
What is it that drives your purpose for living?
If you had 1 day to live what would you want the world know about you?
If you were to write an autobiography about your life, how would you write it? What accomplishments, challenges, goals, dreams, and desires have you had? Would you tell the ones that you love how much they meant to you?

Basically, if life ended tonight before you go to bed, would you be happy?

If not, I challenge you to find what will by answering those questions. Search deeper beyond the surface of life and find something that adds meaning to your life. Whatever it is, I'll join you through your search to be your best self.

Everyone in business nowadays has been told "Its better to work ON your
business than IN your Life Coach business" yet ask yourself - which am I doing?. The thing is, principle, you won't have a business, you'll endure a job, and it'll

Why do you work for yourself anyway - a Life Coach enterprise that works for you, not you working all the hours God sends for it. And the only way to do this is to take control and lead from the front, not wash the mugs, answer the calls, make the appointments and see the clients as well. Yet that's in all likelihood what you're doing right now, yes?

Your role is to be the visionary, the innovator, the marketer, the
leader. Every hour you spend just dealing with clients is
actually costing you financially, emotionally and mentally. If you keep doing the everyday "administrivia", then you'll never be able to take time out.

So many Therapists and Coaches struggle with this. So they continually struggle to get where they vaguely imagine they'll get to. And that's OK if you want to have your sleeves rolled up being very busy doing everything on your ever expanding 'to do' list.

The hope you had was the fulfilment and joy of owning your own Life Coach Practice and being an entrepreneur.. Yet how much harder do you actually work now compared to before? Watching TV but dwelling on your business. Reading a book but going back over that same paragraph cos you're still putting off making those much needed calls

What you've created is a 12 - 16 hour day job laden with
energy draining and legwork, for probably not much more fulfilment than a "normal job".

Homework
Make a list of every task and action you take this week. Note which ONE eats up the bulk of your time in a day. The sooner you can delegate, systematise and automate as many daily
Life Coach functions as you possibly can the better. Look at what you do in a day - who could do that for you, with minimal training? What
technology or software could streamline certain tasks?
Make the effort to break free from that one biggest time-consuming task, freeing you up to work on the tactical steps of growing your Practice.

Hire a PA or a protege for £10 an hour. Sure that might cost you £50 a week, but how many new Life Coach clients would you get if you spent 5 hours a week on marketing, and what would happen to your profit as a result? Work out the figures.

Have a read at the Systems department in www.fullpractices.com which contains a plethora of tips on how to find easier ways to get done what needs to be done.

Your mindset is to be the business owner. You own the Life Coach garage, you're not the mechanic. Your job is to lead, innovate and promote. Do that and you're on a gradually improving route to greater efficiency, deeper fulfilment and a bustling practice.

So, please continue to check back often ...

“Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain.” ~ unknown

Enjoy the moments ....

TheSpiritWalk.com

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A couple of months ago, author Christopher Penczak led me to a wonderful insight--that regardless of our spirituality, we are all seeking the deeper mysteries.  This explains why many Christians are seeking more occult knowledge and many pagans are committing to new paths, some attaining clergy status in multiple traditions or experimenting with some of the more alternative "alternative" religions. 

So far, I've found two ways of exploring my own inner depths.  The first was through Initiation into a spiritual path and a commitment to graduating from the program.  The second was through hiring a life coach to help me make a difficult transition after my divorce. 

I've had two coaches now--I jokingly call them  Yoda (my career coach, whom I no longer see because I made the transition I needed) and Obiwan (my spiritual coach, whom I talk with about once a month).  The coaching experience was quite different from the spiritual training experience, however, mainly because the spiritual training dictated what I was to learn and how I was to learn it.  This is not to say that one was superior to the other--just different.

There were pre-set opinions and Mysteries to be shared in my three years of seminary training, but the coaching experience was more focused on uncovering my own Mysteries.  Both coaches I've worked with have given me guidance  in discovering my own strengths and tools for dealing with the not-so-pleasant, and I've had so many epiphanies through this process.

I think that's the biggest value of a coach--the continued self-inquiry and self-correcting pathwork to get to a place of achieving your dreams and forging new ones. 

I myself have now been a coach for about a year--part-time, fitting it into my existing schedule--and it's been very fulfilling to help other people discover their facets and transform themselves into a higher version of themselves.  Most coaches set aside a 40-60 minute appointment once every 3-4 weeks, but I've been experimenting with email coaching for several clients this month, and it's been better than I could ever have expected! 

Here's why:

There's good reason for devotions, rituals, and church services to be hold on a regular basis, whether it's every Sunday or every Full Moon or four times a day.  If I have an appointment with a client to discuss how they've applied certain spiritual techniques for the past month, what I find is a mad dash in the 48-hours before the appointment to focus on their inner Mysteries and think up a few gems to talk about.  (Hey, I know--I did this with Yoda for the first few months we worked together.)

With email coaching, we're checking in every day or so, doing small things to stay on-track, keeping the focus on their transformation.  It's become a way of living the sacred way, this very regular and frequent but gentle guidance, rather than putting it on a shelf for weeks at a time. 

I guess that's the secret to regularity in ritual:  it keeps the mind focused on the path.

If you're interested in exploring your own Mysteries through a short-term or long-term coaching experience, you can contact me through http://www.lornatedder.com, or if you prefer to work with someone else, I'll be happy to recommend someone to you.

Are We Meant To Be Together?

This question, more than any other question that is asked of me makes me very tense. It bothers me because I do not subscribe to the idea or fantasy that there exists out there “The One”.

In my personal belief system, I just cannot buy into this particular myth.
Some people believe that a “Soul Mate” is “The One”, ugh, it rattles my cage when I hear or read people encouraging this fantasy in others.

This mindset leads people to pursuing relationships that won’t work and to holding on to relationships that don’t work, and frequently gets them obsessed with an ex.

There is no such thing as “The One”. The Universe is not so cruel as to, in the 6,709,999,582 people who are on the earth, (as of 7/1/08), to only have ONE of these people be an appropriate loving and caring partner for YOU.

Statistically, if you were born on 7/1/08, that would give you a 0.0000000149031305856198000% Chance of finding someone to love!

Do you really believe that the odds are stacked that overwhelmingly against us here on Earth?
I don’t.

I believe that we have dozens, perhaps hundreds or thousands, of mortal counterparts that we can build a happy existence with. Fate plays a hand to some degree, yes, fate being the geographic location of your existence, the personality you were born with, (whether you are an introvert or extrovert), the genetics that compose your outward appearance, how your parents raised you and thus how you are wired emotionally and psychologically and more, but I vehemently disregard that fate controls “who we are meant to be with”.

We CHOOSE who we are with (or not with and pining away after).

So when a client says to me, distraught over a crisis in their current love affair, I have no choice but to say, “I cannot in good conscience answer that question as there is no such thing as “The ONE””. This is frequently met with dead silence.

Yes, there may be a soul connection to this individual you love so much, yes, they may even be your “Soul Mate”, (Click HERE to gain understanding of what a Soul Mate actually is), but they are NOT the only “ONE” and it is not “Meant To BE” you must choose to MAKE IT BE! And to top that off, they must also decide, hopefully concurrently, that they want you to be THEIR ONE.

So you’re relationship is in crisis, you don’t know if it is over, you are looking for relief, the easiest question to ask is “Are we meant to be together?”, it will provide you with instant validation and relief if an advisor tells you “yes, you are”, and drive you perhaps to despair if an advisor answers “No, you are not.”

Better questions to ask are “What can I do (if anything) to improve the situation”, or “What are the core issues and root causes of our relationship issues”, or “What do I need to work on internally to better cope with this crisis”.

These are questions that can be answered with true advice that can help you to better choose as to whether or not this individual truly is right for you and deserves to be in the “ONE” position in your life, rather than just trying to validate that your suffering will be worth it in the long run.

So if you do call me, and you do ask me, “Are we meant to be together, is he/she the one?” I will tell you, again, I cannot in good conscience answer that question as I do not believe that there is any such thing as “The One”.

Do the Math!!!!

Brightest Blessings,

Brigid Bishop

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This Group of Readers is Invitation Only in order to maintain the integrity of the group. All of these advisors are ethical and professional and I truly do recommend them highly. I have had personal contact with all of them, they are not just random "picks" or "open to everyone" memberships, I do trust them and endorse them.

All About Us,

Who Are We Really Show

Guest Host - Anna Kujawa

I think she understood for the first time that this was true. Her needing a reason was her excuse not to let go and behave in the way she did. We talked about it for a while and she came through the conversation amazingly well much to my relief!

This is an extreme example of ‘if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you’re going to keep getting what you’ve been getting’.

When I became my mother’s mother at 6 all I knew was that she was unhappy and it was my job to make her happy. It was 20 something years before I stopped and thought about this and I asked myself some questions… is this working for me? Is she happy? Did I succeed?

I had felt like a failure for the first 20 plus years of my life because I failed to make her happy, not my fault of course, as it is impossible to ‘make’ someone else happy. Sure you can bring them happiness but the choice to be a happy person is theirs. So my mothers thinking and choices did not work for her and mine had not worked for me.

I have found since that there have been many areas in my life that I needed to ask the question, ‘how is this working for me?’

If you have been angry with someone for many years ask yourself the same question. How is it working for you, has it changed anything about the event or events that made you angry, has it changed the person involved? Anger is a choice, what you do with the feeling is your choice. My anger only hurts me, it has no affect on anyone else except that it probably makes me not so great to be around.

Look at relationships, does the way I treat or speak to my boyfriend get the result I am looking for? Is my relationship working for me and if not what is it I need to change, (let’s leave him out of it for now,).

Is the approach I have to my boss changing anything to the way I think it should be? Is my complaining at work making any difference?

Is it my thinking about situations that is the problem?

If you keep doing what you’ve been doing you’ll keep getting what you’ve been getting!

Time to change the way you think?

Angela Sharp
Living Life Design
angela@livinglifedesign.com

#S 1,2,3,7,9,10,12,13,14,15,16,17,18,21,22,24,26,28,30 (19 out of 30...11 more to go!)

NEW GOALS COMPLETED IN THE PAST MONTH:

#7 To more items to Salvation Army last week

#25 Completely tore through Taylor's closet, now neat and organized

Room reorganized...new curtains, new rug (not brand new....an older one I had that I loved)

Drawers and closets cleaned out:

Dining room, kitchen: pots and pans, silverware, glasses, dishes, cupboards of food, utensils, table cloths; den, all underneath cabinets; laundry room, shelves cleaned, old socks used as rags and dusters

#10 Bought new couches for the den, to be delivered on July 20

#26 Continue to call old friends! and reconnect

#30 Making early morning habits stick!

#28 Making sure that I eat breakfast each morning and not get onto my laptop the first thing in the morning!!

RECEIVED A CHECK FROM THE CONSIGNMENT STORE!

WHAT I LEARNED:

Have you ever noticed "when one door closes another one opens". For example, after spending all this time decluttering, ridding my house of all the things that we no longer needed...my husband's parent's house sold and the furniture needed to be divided amongst the three grown siblings. (There was a moment of panic when I thought of all the furniture and other stuff that would now be descending on and into the house...after 6 months of cleaning and clearing, ugh!). Here is where the door opened.

For years we had not used the living room because pieces of furniture were being moved from one place, it became the "storage" unit for my own family of origins furniture, nic nacs, paintings, etc...until I decided what to do with it all. I must admit the living room was not a high priority on my list. The thought of redecorating, covering and reupholster was daunting and costly.  We lived in our den which we always found to be more cozy with roaring fires, especially in the cold winters.

When Conway came back from selecting what he might like from his parent's house, I was surprised to learn that much of what he selected would have been my choice too. AND THEY ALL WERE LIVING ROOM FURNITURE PIECES! Last night we had his family over for dinner, we used the living room for the first time in four years! It gave them and us great pleasure to see where the furniture from their past was now living. "Sallie, that looks perfect there, it was meant to be." "Wow, I remember where that was in the old house, it looks fabulous here." I know that they all had a first glance at spying one or more pieces, I am sure as they continue to return, they will trip over another piece from their past. Certainly seeing the pleasure on their faces made my night.

So just when you think you have cleaned out something and have all your ducks in a row, don't be surprised if some other door opens. Greet it with enthusiasm and curiosity, you never know where it will take you.

RENEW, REUSE, RECYCLE:

I learned something new on Good Morning America today; it was all about the new movement to SWAP. As the economy gets tighter, more individuals are swapping their skills and talents for items. Example: a woman needed dental work but could not afford the procedure. It was her dentist that approached her and said that he would be more than happy to take care of her dog in return for the procedure. So check out craigslist or swap.com for more tips.

WHAT'S NEXT:

#7 To more items to Salvation Army last week

Move all inherited furniture to storage unit for kids' future houses

Take painting to auction house

Go through my closet on a rainy day this week

Go through all my drawers in my bedroom

Redo and reorganize linen closet

#5 Tackle Corey's closet...when that is done the entire upstairs will be FINISHED!!!

#3 Take more to the consignment store

#8 Hot tub fell through, so I need to try and sell that one more time

So what are you struggling with?

What would you like to bring into your life?

Remember be SMART: S-specific; M-measureable; A-attainable; R-realistic; T-time oriented

Warmly,

Sallie

Life Coach and International Talk Radio Host

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SALLIE@SALLIEFELTONLIFECOACH.COM

Having a life coach could be considered something new but actually they have been around for years. A life coach is just a individual who can help you be where you really want to be. A true life coach won't necessarily give you the answers but they will help you discover answers for yourself.

3 reasons to have a life coach...

1. To take you from where you are to where you want to be
2. To keep you moving forward on that journey - whatever challenges you may face
3. To act as a point of accountability

Everyone can have a great idea of what they would like to do but not everyone can achieve it on their own. Having a life coach walking that journey with you, believing in you and encouraging you along the way can make an incredible difference. Why not find out more by emailing us today!

A few years ago I found myself at a dead end. I had discovered what it was that I loved and the money was not following. As a matter of fact, the harder I tried, the more it went away. I had lost my job, I was broke and I had two kids to feed. I told myself that losing my job was probably a blessing since now I could dedicate myself to my passion 100%. I was making one hundred cold calls a day to no or little avail and was growing more and more desperate. What was the missing ingredient?

If you have seen the movie Kung Fu Panda you may guess the answer. Back then I had no answers, I just gave up trying and began doing nothing. Or better, I only did what I really wanted to do. My logic was this "If I didn't get any results working hard all day, why not at least have a good time failing."

What followed was astonishing! First, I slept a lot, a whole lot. As long as I was tired, I would not get up. I was determined to only do what was effortless. If getting up was hard, I wasn't getting up. Next, I watched movies. I really got into it. While other people went to work, I was watching the movies I had wanted to see for years. After that I spent a lot of time at coffee houses, enjoying myself and watching people.

Don't get me wrong, I did what I wanted but it wasn't easy. It was scary and it felt wrong. There was this constant voice in my head saying "Wrong, wrong, wrong! That's not how it works!". And then there was this other part of me that I had not known before and it would just not give in.

After a few days, or maybe weeks, several things happened. I realized that the world was not caving in on me and I relaxed. It was an amazing experience! All the fear went away, the fear of not having control, the fear of being controlled, the fear of failing, of not failing, of having money or not having money, and all of a sudden it seemed that the whole world was available for me to play in.

I got curious. How did I want to live my life? What did I really want to do and how? I knew I loved working with people, but did I really want to make 100 cold calls a day? Did I want to push hard and build a big business or was it something more simple and gentle? At that point everything was possible.

I did not know it at the time, but during those days I learned to trust myself. I became the conductor of my own music. I found my timing, my rhythm and the flow of my life. In the beginning it felt uncomfortable letting go of old habits and beliefs but over time it became easier and easier. I realized which activities gave me energy and which ones didn't. Perception and awareness helped me in following my heart rather than my head in making sound decisions. My life became effortless and light. Instead of making 100 calls to get two appointments I made 5 calls and got 10. I surrendered to my life and found my bliss.

I also discovered that I do like to get up early in the morning - except for the days when I don't.