... get "The Look!", from the wifey of course...

உங்க வீட்ல எப்படி?

இத ஊர்ஜிதப்படுத்தற மாதிரி வலையுலகத்தில பல பதிவுகள் படிச்சேன்...

பிரியா சொல்றாங்க - பசங்களும் பொண்ணுங்களும்

பசங்க பார்த்தா Sight

பொண்னுங்க பார்த்தா Just Looking
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மிக்கி சிங் (Mickysingh) - Words Women Use

"Fine"
This is the word women use to end an arguementwhen they are right and you need to shut up.

அதுக்கு day_trader பதில் கொடுத்திருக்கிறார்...

Finally , the guys' side of the story.
(I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear 'the rules' From the female side.
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1. Men are NOT mind readers.

1. Shopping is NOT a sport.
And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
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Husband: I am sorry ok? Forgive me.

Wife: I will never forgive you for what you said.

H: I'm saying sorry right?

W: So?

H: Just say I am forgiven.

W: OK you are forgiven.

H: You did nt mean that!

W: How do you know? You asked me to say it and I said it.

H: Mean it.

:D

Find out how our dear Sayesha became a random south-meets-north slidshow girl

You know, because status is everything.

In her book "The Female Mind", Dr. Luan Brizendine, says the inherent differences between the male brain and the female brain, makes women more talkative. In fact she says, women also speak more quickly, devote more brainpower to chit-chat - and actually get a buzz out of hearing their own voices (Heh, heh, heh...).

As a result the average woman speaks around 20,000 words a day, while men only speak around 7,000. This is just perfect, as Jay Leno said on TV last night "because one third of the time men aren't listening to their women!"

You can read more about the book and this topic here.

My dear, we have heard of some really absurd reasons for trouble between couples, but this one takes the cake and the bakery!

Dating Allowance - right. That's the allowance that is enforced with a gun to the guy's head and weilded by a trigger happy HR guy on loan from the D-company. The fine print of this D-Allowance also says "no man (or woman, I presume) can refuse to go out on a date with someone from the opposite sex" in the company, or else they will be hog-tied and fired like the furnace in hell!

Come on lady, while we empathise with your hurt, and wouldn't wish separation on anyone who doesn't want it - but you cannot arbitrarily blame a company, least of all its owner who is a man who is doing so much for the industry, economy, and country as a whole! Take a look at the strength of your own relationship, that's where the problem lies, not in this bizarre concocted theory of yours!!

We are not even getting into the debate on the existence of such an allowance. Even I have given people I worked with tickets to go see movies... go out for dinner... if they decide to mess around as consenting adults, that's their problem!

We don't know why the media is picking up and running the story so much (though you can sense the grin in all the reporting).

And we don't know why you want to let the world know your marriage is so strong, that it is falling apart because of some dating allowance!

Get real. Get help. We pray for you. But please don't waste the time of our courts, journalists, and of course people who have better things in life to do, than deal with your personal domestic issues!

UPDATE 1: Just in - the woman has apparently withdrawn the names of Premji and her husband's boss in the "domestic violence" case. However her lawyer says they will still pursue the case against the alleged Dating Allowance. Read the story here.

"The opposite of love in a marriage, is not hate, but apathy"

Which is why perhaps the most memorable moment in the film "Gone with the Wind" is when He tells Her "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn!"

Think about it.

As time progresses, the conversation regresses, to cliched examples of forgeting birthdays, to wasting money on shopping, to not caring about the kids, to caring too much about the kids... and with great pride and joy most of the other husbands and wives respectively, nod their heads in agreement and add their own examples to prove the point.

The point is, does this all make it right? Or does this recognition of "we are like this only" make it better?

Do these conversations help resolve the issues? Do the spouses go back thinking "oh my husband/wife is not such a jerk after all... it's just his genetic make up, so I won't be harsh on him/her"?

We think it usually gives them the license to go on behaving insensitively and destructively, with the belief "We cannot do anything about it, the whole world is like this only..."

We think this clearly reflects the lack of wanting things to improve. Because this status quo helps men push off to play golf with their buddies, and ignore the sensitive 'woman' side of their 'children's mom'. It helps the woman go out and use their hubby's credit card to buy a dozen dresses, and complain about the husband not buying them a dozen roses.

We find that odd and unacceptable in a relationhip, because first and foremost, you must have the desire to have a 'happy marriage of equals, where there is no place for the mars versus venus contest.

Good marriages are like good friendships - open, sharing, caring, understanding - where you accept the person for what they are, without complaining about it!

Well you might say "we accept, which is why we're together since so long!" Give us a break - True acceptance only happens when it is no longer a point of complaint!

We were watching Will Smith on television the other night - on of all the places, AXN's "The Man's World Show"! The show in itself was interesting, because it attempts to shatter all the myths around the 'man things' and gives insights on what women look for in a 'real man'. But more on the show later, right now, back to what Will Smith said.

Will Smith is happily married for 7 years, to his wife whom he's known for 11 years. Here's a guy who's extremely talented - he acts, he sings, he's done work with Nelson Mandela, and he has an amazing sense of humour.

Which is why, it would be fair to say, he's got the opportunity, the money, and the status to go about doing what he wants as 'a man'. Yes, from what he hear, and heard him say in the show, he does live like a man - but not the typical 'socks on the sofa' variety, but the 'sensitivity to spouse' variety!

And as he put it - husbands and wives have to be buddies above all. Where you can share not just the events, but also the emotions that drive your life. You should be able to tell him or her anything (like him wanting to go out with the guys even after he came home sloshed last time; like her wanting him to just hold her instead of... you know...) without fear of being judged or having it held against you in a Court of Flaws!

We like what he said. We live by what he said. We share our innermost thoughts - from fears, feelings, to even fantasies - and we find it makes our relationship richer, without either 'man' or 'woman' part of us feeling poorer!

If you're like us, we are happy for you. If you're like the couples mentioned in the beginning - read this piece a couple of times with your spouse. And seriously think about it, with a simple perpective - "We want to make our's a great marriage"

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